Wednesday, August 24, 2005

"The Best Advice I Ever Got" --Fortune (magazine)

My BF printed this article for me to read, said that it is a very gd ariticle...and it is. My friends was shocked that he does this kind of thing... if he passes it to them, they will think that he thought they are stupid and need education....but he onli wants to share something that he find nice.

Here is the summery of all the advices the big companies CEOs and chair-persons got that meant alot to them in their decision making. (words written after '~~' is comment by me :P.)

1. You're right not because others agree with you, but because your facts are right. -Warren Buffett (CEO of Berkshire Hathaway)
~~ Facts are facts...it does not include the hear-say informations that you got! Got out there and find out, don't just listen to one source.

2. Make a fool of yourself. Otherwise you won't survive. -Richard Branson (founder of Virgin Atlantic Airways ans the Virgin Group)
~~ This is probably why he always do alot of stunting entrance in his promotion tours.

3. Recognize the skills and traits you don't possess, and hire people who have them. -Howard Schultz (Chairman of Starbucks)
~~ Like I can't do public speaking....:P

4. Have the courage to stick with a tough job. -A.G.Lafley (CHairman and CEO of Procter & Gamble)
~~ See...stick to tough job... do if boss is tough... can run? :P

5. Follow your own instincts, not those of people who see the world differently. -Summer Redstone (Chairman and CEO of Viacom)
~~Even if the whole world opposites ur decision, if every one of ur cells scream to you that it is the correct decision go ahead.

6. Be nice, do your best -and the most important, keep it in perspective. -Meg Whitman (CEO and President of eBay)
~~Alot more detail in her part of the article, I like the part that she says "...any job you're given is an opportunity to prove yourself."

7. Be Yourself. -Jack Welch (Former chairman and CEO of General Electric)
~~Not only be yourself, but be what you can be. But it is true for many people that they have to get warmed up by the company before they can start being more open and be more comfortable to be themselves. At least I think I'm improving by shortening the time needed to adjust to the situation...:P

8. Don't limit yourself by past expectations. -Vivek Paul (President and CEO of Wipro Technologies)
~~I like the event that he mentioned abt the adult elephants that thought they cannot breakloose of their bonds as when they were younger and weaker they tried and failed. It is like, I can't reach the sky now...it doesn't mean I can never right. Once in awhile I should try and even if I can't I shouldn't think that I can never touch the sky. :p

9. When you negotiate, leave a little something on the table. -Dick Parsons (Chairman and CEO of Time Warner)
~~ It is like a chinese pharse “做人不要太绝,一定要留一点后路给人。”

10. When "everyone knows" something to be true, nobody knows nothin'. -Andy Grove (Chairman of Intel)
~~It is like science... everyone knows that eating fruits aids in digestions, so everyone starts to have a healthy lifestyle of eating fruits after meals. Until recent years then came another scientific paper that states eating fruits right after meals is actually un-healthy as the fruit acids will prevents the food to digest properly... putting more pressure on the digestive system. In the end, eating fruits half and hr before meals is deem more healthier. this statement will probably be over-ride someday by another research group...haha

11. Remember the parable of the cow in the ditch -Anne Mulcahy (CEO of Xerox)
~~ Basically means get out of the problem first, then find out what happened that cause the problem and after that make sure not to land into the same problem again.

12. All you really own are ideas and the confidence to write them down. -Brian Grazer (Academy Award-winning movie and TV producer, Imagine Entertainment)
~~The idea is to regonise your own asserts and be brave to out them to work. Mine.... not sure yet... I have a problem of seeing myself clearly, thus most of the times need others to point out my shortcomings and abilities. (mainly shortcomings...)

13. Regularly sit at the feet of Peter Drucker. -Rick Warren (Minister, founder of Saddleback Chruch and author of The Purpose-Driven Life)
~~In the paragraph he suggested something interesting...which is to have good models to look up to, and recommend them all to be dead. As people who are successful now might not be as successful in the future.

14. The real discipline comes in saying no to the wrong opportunities. -Jim Collins (Author of the bestseller Good to Great)
~~Not every opportunities are good for you and your ideas or meet your ideals. Really go in and study them before making a decision. They might give you money or power or every other things in life but then they might not be the right one. Say "NO" or "YES" only after careful considerations.

15. Get good -or get out. -Peter Drucker (Business consultant)
~~That is something he learned from life itself. Either you get good at what you do, or prepare to be replaced by others.

16. Start Young. -Ted Turner (Founder of CNN and former vice chairman of Time Warner)
~~Also something that he learned from young, that is how his father cultivated him. It is true that one will perform better at certain things if he have the experience from young. haha...reminds me of Takumi from Initial D, who is a expert drift-racer because he starts from young.

17. Balance your work with your family. -David Neeleman (CEO of JetBlue)
~~Even if you love your job too much, you still have to remember that your family loves you too and need your love. Only when they knows that you loves them then they will love you.

18. Bail out of a business that isn't growing. -Mickey Drexler (CEO of J. Crew)
~~If you know that there is no future in the job that you are holding now, if there is a chance to get out of that job...grab it. I'm looking for the opportunity now, grabing opportunities that allows me to get out of my stagnant state...even when many people oppose me. :P

19. Let others take the credit. -Brian Roberts (CEO of Comcast)
~~reason he put in is "it makes them feel like they're part of something special"... guess it is correct as due to that they will work harder to achieve as it is no longer for someone else...but for themselves... it is their job...their credits..

20. Incorporate philanthropy into your corporate structure. -Marc Benioff (Founder and CEO of Salesforce.com)
~~Something like “取自社会,用至社会”, many people love to give something back to society, thru money or volunteerism. By providing them that in the company not only make them feels better in working for the company and society but also proves that this company is not just the other company...something like that....

21. Surround yourself with people of integrity, and get out of their way. -Hector Ruiz (CEO of AMD)
~~ This seems only applicable when you are a leader of a group of people that you chosed. Because of your trust and support, they will do more.

22. If you love something, the money will come. -Donny Deutsch (CEO of Deutsch Inc. and host of CNBC's The BIg Idea With Donny Deutsch)
~~Don't do somethings because you wanna make big money, do something you like and eventually it will make money. Something like that? Basically is that if you do something you hate but can earn money...you will eventually loss money...

23. Keenly visualize the future. -Klaus Kleinfeld (CEO of Siemens)
~~It is like what someone said to me earlier in the mth, visualised what you want in the future clearly and you will have the energy and the ideas of how to work towards that goal coming to you more easliy. ....sigh...it is hard, as visualise is easy but the real work is difficult....the key is to be persistent to reach the goal.

24. Don't chart your career path too soon. -Ann Fudge (Chairman and CEO of Young and Rubicam Brands)
~~She said that you are better of demostrating your capabilities at each level, excelling in each job, than to chart you career path and trys to shorten the time between each level.

25. Respect people for who they are, not for what their titles are. -Herb Kelleher (Founder and chairman of Southweat Airlines)
~~Don't be superficial, there are people who are better and wiser in every scope of life. If you give respect to people, they respect you back. Respect does not meant just for elders and knowlegable but everyone...even ur young friends.

26. You can learn from anyone. -Clayton Christensen (Harvard Business School Professor)
~~Just that people doesn't have the title of Professor does not mean that they are not wise. A young boy can say something enlightening to an old man just due to the differences in perspective. You can even learn from the change of weather...

27. Do what you love. -Ted Koppel (Anchor of ABC's Nightline)
~~Don't do things that people expect you to do when you don't love it. Don't do things that many people thinks that is great even if you don't love it. Only do things that you love... in that way, you will excel.

I learned alot from the article, so thought I share some out. :P hehee...does not agrees to all al but then they are gd ideas anyway, even when I don't like some...they work for the big guys!

Friday, August 19, 2005

My personality

My sis post me a link to a personality test today and very surprisingly or unsurprisingly I'm labelled as both an introvert and extrovert. hmm...interesting isn't it.

Short intro and analysis of myself. I'm a Gemini, probably one of the more typical ones. Mercury is the planet represent me and Air is my sign. So whatever you find on Gemini is probably true abt me, including the more than dual personality...
Thus it probably explain the introvert and extrovert combination.

When I'm younger, I believes rules are to be broken. When I grew older, I believes rules have to be there to allow some form of organisation and system but they still can be bent to my benefits/likings without breaking the organisation/system. I like to follow others when I don't have any plans, I can comprimise to people when I don't have any preference at that moment but I don't really like to be forced to listen to one idea, decision or order when I find it stupid and unreasonable. Sometimes I will just try to bent/reorganise the idea, decision or order to feel better abt following them without losing my personality.

An example from work... Supervisor ask me to do an experiment for her, I'll say okie...but I'll see if I'm free at the moment, see what else I'm doing then go plan when I'm goin to do it and how I'm goin to do it. I'm do not follow her protocol entirely if I find I can do it my way better. But in the end, I still get the job done. :P Maybe not as fast as she want me to but then I normally finish it with better quality and time management.

An example from friends... I'll normally have no perference in where we meet and what we eat, but I'll usually voice out when if they are walking ard aimlessly...or staring at one another and ask 'so wats now.' Friends who know me will know that I'll usually try to drag them to a cafe to drink coffee, but then those who don't like it will stop me from doing that and truely I do not feel disappointed at all.

Thursday, August 18, 2005

To everyone concern...

Thanks for all the concerns and advices from everybody who loves me. I'm really lucky, and sorry that I behaves like a kid. I'm all okie now, thought it thru already.

I can only behaves as I behaves, do things as I believe I should and trust myself in my own analysis to many other advices that I find no pt. at all.

The pt is 'Be myself, Be happy, Trust myself even if others do not trust me.'

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Continue to Bad or Good

This is the part 2 of the past post named 'Wrong or Right'. :P

Many things happens this few weeks and they all triggers the right or wrong, bad or good questions.

First is the MLM thingy... then is the BF thingy...

This is somewhat a post of complains instead of a post of reviews of inccidents. So bear with me if you are reading this...anyway it will be a relatively short post. :P

I love advices and critizes from people abt things in my life, truely I just plainly love debates and love to know the possible reasons they have over the points that they hold on to. One thing I don't particularly like is the reasons that is entirely not the reasons thou.

Everyone have the concept of MLM is a bad thing..is something wrong...so, why is it wrong and cannot be right? 'it is bad', of course I know the public concept of the MLM but why? Because of wat? A few bad cases and everyone is bad?

Oh ya, don't come and tell me that I should not do this or that because in public eyes it is not right...tell me the true reason that you hold! Of course I know the public reasonings...I want yours!

I'm stubborn, but I'm willing to listen and analyse.

朋友的信任

我以为我的朋友们多多少少都了解我,对我有某种的信任。了解我的性格,了解我做人的原则,但是我发现没有几个人信任我。

某某朋友昨天问我:‘你为什么看起来不开心?有了恋爱的人不是应该很开心的吗?’有了恋爱的人就不可以仍然对工作,家人,朋友,事业等等的事不开心吗?你一定要认为是恋情出了事情吗?哈哈,我离题了。

回到‘信任’。。。
有人介绍了一个可以赚钱的所谓‘事业’给我。我仔细看过后发现是一个还不错的点子,所以我加入了他们。刚开始时我只是买家而不是生意伙伴。 应为以前有过不好的经验,所以处处小心谨慎。过了不久后才真正做出了决定,应为可行而有长期的发展潜能。重要的是,发现没有其他同样的所谓‘事业’比这个还要公平起见了。

我知道在我的朋友群里,认同我的人很少。我也知道如果我要他们对这门生意感兴趣的机会很渺茫,但是应为知道很多人都想找出路,所以我还是介绍他们。希望这是一个他们可以用来完成梦想的机会。我知道很多朋友都会在没有任何‘想’而马上说‘不’, 但是我没有想到他们会认为我要骗他们的钱!在我解识给他们听以后还是这么认为! 有的马上说:‘那你骗了多少个人?’或 ‘你骗了谁?’或‘小心被骗。’有些朋友没有说口, 但是却给我更伤人的 ‘你要骗我的钱’的眼神。请问朋友们, 我有拿着刀逼你们加入吗?我只是希望可以帮到你们,但是你连机会都不给我。看也不想看,听也不想听。即使听了,心里也一至认为我要骗你,或我被骗了。

谢谢你们认为我苯,谢谢你们对我的不信任, 至少我已不再是那个坐在家里问‘自己为什么他们都找到出路了, 而我的出路还没有找到我?’。

路是自己铺的,自己找的,自己选的,自己走的,我只是让你有多一个选择而已。不给自己一个机会,也别把我认为是一个骗人的人 或 被骗的人。

我不生气,而是有点无奈。原来我不是一个令人信任的人。我的‘以为’原来和‘事实’不一样。。。

Monday, August 15, 2005

Flowers

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A new love, a new start in life. Hope our love will be like the name of the bouquet of flower..."Love Infinity"

Got this from my BF, whom charmed me with his knowledge. Never thought I'll find someone so soon after a terrible relationship, but he came by. I am very very lucky and happy, :P give us all the blessings in the world.
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Wednesday, August 03, 2005

花 -- 五月天




作词:阿信作曲:阿信

这一声 这一次 为自己抬起头
至少要骄傲的盛开过

就狂舞如果吹狂风
就等待放晴的天空
如果雨越下越大 节奏就更猛

当风雨 都过去 迎着风 看天空
不放弃 才能够 有感动
这一生 这一次 为自己 抬起头
至少要 骄傲的 盛开过

有谁能听到我心脏
有谁能听到我绽放
谁能谁懂谁听见
也于是来自四方

当风雨 都过去 迎着风 看天空
不放弃 才能够 有感动
这一生 这一次 为自己 抬起头
至少要 骄傲的 盛开过

当风雨 都过去 迎着风 看天空
不放弃 才能够 有感动
这一生 这一次 为自己 抬起头
至少要 骄傲的 盛开过





Never give up as there is a rainbow after the rain.

Wrong and Right

What is wrong and what is right? There are times that people tells me that 'hey, that is wrong.' or 'No it is unacceptable'. So I ask them why is it that they think is wrong and not right to do? Because it is socially unacceptable? Because there are histories of failure and horrible results? Because by doing that there are people who will think bad abt you? Because because because...

Wrong and Right? Who determines that? When we were young, our parents/elders are the ones that teaches us that. When we grown up, society are the ones that re-enforces the concepts of whats right and whats wrong.

As I grew up, the concepts of whats right and whats wrong always kind of confuses me and I always have doubts abt them. Thus to make things easier.... whatever benefits me yet don't harms others are right enough, whatever harms me or people I love are wrong enough...others...depends hugely on situation. Many exists in the grey zone of can be right, yet can be wrong. Depending on the people who view it, it might be right to me but wrong to others.